"At 3 a.m. on the morning of April 23, Dan and I walked out of our house into a freezing cold spring night and got in the car, on our way to the hospital to meet our son. At 5:22 a.m., two hours after we arrived at the hospital, Isaac was born. It is no exaggeration to say this is the story of the craziest, most intense two hours of my life.
First, let's back up to 2 p.m. the previous afternoon. I had my 39 week appointment with my midwife, who told me that I was 3 cm dilated and 75 percent effaced. I had been having contractions of varying discomfort levels for weeks, so while I was glad to hear that I was making some progress, I wasn't convinced it meant I'd be in labor any time soon.
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Now I would like to take a moment to acknowledge what an incredible trooper Dan was. We did NOT prepare for this, people. Our basic philosophy about baby birthing has not changed since Kate was born. That philosophy, in case you didn't read about it or have forgotten, is called "Heck no, we don't want to see the placenta." Or anything else for that matter. When I was thinking about trying to have a natural birth on purpose, Dan was supportive, but I think there was a certain sense of relief for him when I decided to just have the epidural. But when it became obvious that we were not going to be having the kind of birth we had planned, he was incredibly calm, and that helped me. He still parked himself up by my head and told the midwives he didn't want to see anything, but I appreciated his head-of-the-bed policy because I needed him up there with me, to keep telling me I could do it. It was actually really brave of him to sit right there. Believe me, it wasn't pretty. Lesser men would have run away.
So back to the end: After one particularly long contraction, the midwife told me that the baby was going to come out in one more push, she just knew it, and when he did they were going to hand him up to me, so to get ready to hold him. I sincerely thought she was lying to me, but if she was, it worked. I put everything I had into pushing when that next contraction came, and then he was out. Everyone cheered. I collapsed on the bed in total relief and exhaustion, and true to her word, the midwife handed the baby up to me immediately.
That's how we met our son. He was pink and perfect and so wide awake and alert, staring back at us with big eyes. The midwives were saying how pretty he was, and what a beautiful birth it was, but I could hardly hear them because I was shaking all over and my ears were ringing. Turns out all those women I laughed at while reading birth stories are right about the high of natural childbirth. I felt great. I felt like electricity was running through my body. I felt like I could fly. Mostly I just felt amazed that I had done it.
.................With Isaac's pregnancy and birth, I learned that things can be different a second time around. If any of the women reading this take one thing away from this story, I hope that is it. A difficult experience does not have to define childbirth for you. If you aren't happy with something, make a change. Every birth is different, and you have no control over that. What you can control are the choices you make."Povestea intreaga aici.
miercuri, octombrie 13, 2010
A doua oara
La cateva minute dupa ce l-am nascut pe Vlad, doctorul m-a intrebat daca nu ii facem si o surioara. Am crezut ca isi bate joc de mine, nu am gustat deloc gluma si mi-am spus in gand ca nu o sa mai fac asta niciodata: sa nasc.
Si iata-ma acum, la cateva saptamani, zile poate de a doua nastere, cu un sentiment absolut dement ca "abia astept". Probabil ca abia astept sa imi iau copilul in brate, dar cumva, fara sa am curajul sa recunosc, abai astept sa nasc. Simt ca va fi altfel de data asta si ca miracolul pe care abia l-am intuit prima oara, printre frustrari si umilinte si frici, o sa il simt acum deplin.
Intamplator sau nu, am citit in seara asta o poveste a unei a doua nasteri. Emotionanta ca orice poveste de nastere, dar cu ceva in plus. Exact acel ceva pe care mi-l doresc si eu de data asta, a doua oara.
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Foarte frumos si realist. Eu am nascut in state, in spital dar cu o moasa (doula). Care a fost cea mai buna investitie posibila. Sunt control-freak si ideea de a mi se administra medicamente care sa imi tulbure abilitatea oricum tulbure de a ma simti in oarece control m-a impins in bratele nasterii naturale. La 34 de ani. Asadar am purces la un travaliu indus (spart acvariu:) de 6 ore care a culminat cu 25 de minute in care as fi acceptat 3 cezariene si doua amputari de membre la alegere. Dupa care desigur am zis "never again". Tocmai ce am trecut de jumatatea sarcinii doi si ma pregatesc ardent sa nasc la fel, daca desigur Dumnezeu, astrele si alti factori se aliniaza.
Abia astept sa va vad pe toti patru, sa citesc povestea si sa aflu cum il cheama pe cel mai mic. Si eu am dificultati mari cu alegerea numelor, pentru ca pe cele mai frumoase (de baiet) le-am ales prima data. Si asteptam tot un bebe bleu.
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Am sters sa corectez doi typo :)
nastere usoara si asa cum o visezi tu:)
Care-i faza cu nascutul cu moasa? Am mai citit o poveste de nastere de prin tari straine cu moase straine. Moase romanesti exista? In afara de alea din maternitati, poti sa iti inchiriezi una particulara?
Povestea cu moasele e mai complicata. Exista si moase romanesti dar aici ele sunt un fel de apendice al doctorului. Nu poti sa nasti doar cu moasa. In plus, nu sunt nici pregatite si nu au voie sa asiste singure o nastere. Speram ca noile generatii de moase vor fi altfel si se vor schimba si legile (de exemplu, s-ar putea legaliza nasterea acasa). gasesti mai multe detalii aici: http://www.nastecumsimti.org/ sau http://mamepentrumame.ro/
Anonim iti multumeste pentru raspuns si iti doreste nastere frumoasa si copil sanatos si voinic
Salut,
daca ai apelat la acelasi doctor (Celus Tarpan) si daca nu e o problema te pot deranja pe mail cu cateva intebari legate de el (date de contact si altele) ?
Multumesc si multa sanatate.
e ok pe adresa de mail de pe blog ?
costel, nicio problema. scrie-mi la treibadica@gmail.com
Simina, multumesc de site-uri, nu stiam de ele si ma bucur ca exista atari surse de informare!
Cred ca treaba cu moasele se bazeaza pe ideea ca nu doctorul naste, ci tu nasti, si esti desenata sa nasti normal. In general, cu cat se "implica" mai mult doctorul cu atat exista sanse mai mari sa se complice nasterea. Epidurala de pilda, de impiedica sa "push" ca nu simti cand si cu ce intensitate sunt contractiile... Nasterea asistata de moasa e o abordare mai aproape de firesc, iti ofera mai curand sprijin psihic decat medical.
eu am nascut cu doua moase si cu complicele conjugal de fata. a asistat la tot, la cele 50 de ore de contractii si la finalizarea lor. s-a trezit si cu foarfecele in mana sa taie cordonul. printre multele avantaje a fost ca am nascut in pozitia in care am simtit eu ca e bine, cumva pe jos.
nasterea cu moase rulz, sunt f f recunoscatoare ca nu am nascut traditional romaneste.
bafta!
draga Monia, in Romania e clar: doctorul naste! Si mai dur spus: doctorul extrage copilul din uterul femeii prin orice metode considera el potrivite. Singura conditie e ca la sfarsit si femeia si copilul sa fie in viata, in ce fel de viata si stare nu conteaza.
A inceput din fericire o "miscare" pentru nasteri naturale, acasa sau cu moase, si in Romania, dar nu stiu daca mai "apuc" eu si momentul cand vom avea ceva rezultate.
Iglitza, nasterile tale nu s-au intamplat in Romania, nu?
am o nastere, in anglia (londra). primele 36 de saptamani de sarcina au fost in romania, deci nu stiu din proprie experienta cum decurg ingrijirile prenatale. despre nastere pot da detalii :)
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